Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits – Business Insider

“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.”

In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness. As the normal stresses of a life together pile up—with children, career, friend, in-laws, and other distractions crowding out the time for romance and intimacy—couples may put less effort into their relationship and let the petty grievances they hold against one another tear them apart.”

Source: Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits – Business Insider

Just a reminder to be kind to your loved ones, and work in your relationships. Taking someone for granted or letting “life” get in the way is sure a sad way relationships fall apart.


Article: How Reebok Is Tackling One Of The Sports World’s Trickiest Problems

Football Helmets Banging Together

Reebok Skullcaps

How Reebok Is Tackling One Of The Sports World’s Trickiest Problems | Co.Design | business + design.

While playing football and many other high contact sports come with its risks,  I think this is definitely a step in the right direction. To be able to measure the impact of a blow to the head and to be warned about the severity of its impact allows coaches and players to take action. It is not a mere ringing in the head but the skullcap can PROVE that the red flag should be raised.

An interesting point that the author mentioned, too, is the psychological side effect of wearing these skullcaps. Everyone was playing more cautiously! There was fewer head banging and less rough play, at least in the upper torso to the head region. The skullcaps serve as a psychological sign that says, “Watch it now! You should be cautious of the blows your head is absorbing from just one tackle.”

Now, we can take this one step further. We can say that the players may just be playing more cautiously than before because the skullcap is new. They don’t normally wear these skin-tight fabric on their heads. Once the novelty wears down, I’ll be interested to seeing if this psychological sign will still be in play. Maybe at that point, the skullcaps will truly be seen a valuable gear all athletes need to put on as they “suit up.”

Today I Learned: Non-functioning Alarms Can Cost You

Nearly everything that happens in this world has a direct or indirect consequence. The consequence of waking up one hour later than you usually do because of an alarm that didn’t ring is a $40 parking citation ticket.

So the story goes –

I did not wake up at my usual time of 6:20am this morning. I do not believe it rang at all. My usual commute is a 30 minute drive to the train station to take the 7:46am train and then an hour ride to my final stop. I woke up at 7:43am with a gasp, startling my sleeping partner. I suspect it was the bright morning sky outside that made me naturally wake up. Who knows how much longer I would have slept if it wasn’t for light?!

Being incredibly late and knowing that I will miss my scheduled meeting that morning if I was to take public transportation, I decided to drive all the way across the San Mateo Bridge to get to Berkeley. I will park at the Ashby station and ride one stop. I know I will get to work on time.

An oversight, and one I should have seen coming, is that there were no parking spots left on the lot. Like none. Zip. Nada. EXCEPT for the permit parking side, which is the side of the parking lot that you need to prepay for a monthly permit tag to hang on your rear-view mirror. The residential area surrounding the parking lot is zoned so only residents can do street parking (without the 2 hour limit). Gambling with my luck, I decided to park in the Permit Lot and WISH AND HOPE AND PRAY, that the po-po will skip over my car, that s/he will be busy working on the OTHER side of the lot that by the time s/he gets to my car, it will be past 10am and s/he cannot ticket me. (The permits are only required from 4am-10am. Any car can be parked there outside of those times.)

WHELP. I got my second parking citation of the year. A whopping (but not too bad) $40. I hope my “lucky” ticket collection streak stops now though. If only winning the lottery was this easy.