Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits – Business Insider

“If your partner expresses a need,” explained Julie Gottman, “and you are tired, stressed, or distracted, then the generous spirit comes in when a partner makes a bid, and you still turn toward your partner.”

In that moment, the easy response may be to turn away from your partner and focus on your iPad or your book or the television, to mumble “Uh huh” and move on with your life, but neglecting small moments of emotional connection will slowly wear away at your relationship. Neglect creates distance between partners and breeds resentment in the one who is being ignored.

There are many reasons why relationships fail, but if you look at what drives the deterioration of many relationships, it’s often a breakdown of kindness. As the normal stresses of a life together pile up—with children, career, friend, in-laws, and other distractions crowding out the time for romance and intimacy—couples may put less effort into their relationship and let the petty grievances they hold against one another tear them apart.”

Source: Lasting Relationships Rely On 2 Traits – Business Insider

Just a reminder to be kind to your loved ones, and work in your relationships. Taking someone for granted or letting “life” get in the way is sure a sad way relationships fall apart.

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Forgetting Negative Materials in Depression – Article Critique

The aim of this paper is to give a review of the article “Training Forgetting Negative Material in Depression” written by Joormann et al. (2009) by providing an analysis of the effectiveness of the article’s style in conveying the research’s importance and contribution to the study of depression as well as the appropriateness of the experimenters’ approach to conducting their study. Briefly, Joormann et al.’s experiment investigated whether using substitution as a specific cognitive strategy can aid depressed participants to forget negative target words. Using the think/no-think method, they found that by substituting unwanted target words with another, clinically depressed participants are able to forget a significant number of the words they learned in an earlier phase. These results supported the idea it is possible to train depressed individuals to counteract their rumination tendencies.

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